“Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity.  All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely.”
Paul to the church in Corinth

I was meeting with one of my favorite clients the other day.  He is one of the more passionate and direct people I meet with on a regular basis.  That passion sometimes gets him in trouble, but it is one of the things I appreciate most about him.

He is a great guy who is becoming extraordinary.  His level of self reflection has risen to a level where he is regularly working on becoming a better person in his life and his leadership.  He wants to close the gap between the reflections of others and the way he sees himself.  We have very direct and engaging conversations whenever we meet.

After this last meeting, he sent me an e-mail asking why I was “holding back on him”.  He believes I operate with great instincts but thought I was not following through on some thoughts I was having concerning him.

I told him that I wasn’t sure about how strong my “instincts” were, but I have been told that I operate with a lot of spiritual discernment and I have a lot of experiential knowledge from meeting with hundreds of people one-on-one each year.  Maybe that is what he was identifying.

I also told him that I rarely offer anything I haven’t prayerfully discerned and that it is very important to me.  In fact, I take the integrity of our overall approach to coaching individuals very seriously.   

We have some very clear “hills we will die on” that I operate under:

  • We ask the questions no one else will ask.
  • We say the things that no one else dare say.
  • We recommend what we believe is the right thing
    for the client regardless of the financial implications
    for us or them.

I almost always offer whatever I discern God has put on my heart to share.  For the most part (and increasingly) we have so much conviction about the tools, processes, roadmap, and experience we are offering that we rarely let anything stand in the way of our…

…asking, saying, and recommending.

All of us need someone who we trust that will speak the truth about what they see.  Someone interested enough in us to care more about saying the right thing than the way we might respond.

  • Are you in a season of self-reflection?
  • What are you working on changing in your life and leadership?
  • Do you have anyone asking and saying the necessary things?
  • Have you given anyone the permission to do that for you?